Which is why this all confuses me even more….do I go for these friends when they give me indication that they want something more? Do I leave it alone and pretend it never happened or that this is just a normal occurrence? Do I worry about ruining my friendship with them? I don’t necessarily believe the whole saying about people being in the friend zone and staying there either. This doesn’t mean I wouldn’t ever date a guy who I was friends with first, because believe me, I have some hot friends! It’s just how the cookie crumbles in my dating life. Every guy I’ve dated has been someone I was attracted to from the get-go and I was never friends with them first. But to be honest, I’ve really never been that type. One lovely lady I know will ONLY date guys she is friends with first and does not date “strangers” whatsoever. Some lovely ladies I know think the best people to date are your guy friends – that way you already know how they are and how they will treat you. Then I become even more confused and try to avoid thinking about it all together. What happened to the strictly platonic friendship we once had? And what is it about now that they’ve all of a sudden decided to reveal these feelings? Being a girl, of course I take this too far and start to ponder whether all my guy friends are just being my friend to inevitably try and sleep with me. And when this happens, I become confused. These aren’t just some acquaintance type, party friends either – they’re like fairly good friends of mine. Or they just straight up start hitting on me/flirting with me…and not just friendly flirting that we normally partake in. We’d go from being super close and being JUST friends to them all of a sudden admitting that they have had some sort of feelings for me either in the past or in present day. Really, they’re just some of my very best friends who I love to death more than anything and yeah.īut lately, within the past year or two, I’ve definitely had some of these guy friends changing their tune. I won’t lie, I may have made out with a few (a lot) of them, but it never went anywhere more than that and none of us have ever made it weird after either. These guys are always asking why I never bring girls for them, yet they fail to notice that I never hang out with girls (I’m always with them…duh!). I have so many guy friends and hang out with them so often that I end up being the girl at the bar who does not get hit on by any guys because of this factor. In fact, there are a few guys in my life that I would tell my secrets to that I won’t tell even some of my girlfriends. I tell these guys all my girl problems just like I would if they were a girl, do things with them that I would do with my girlfriends, and pretty much trust them with my life. I have a TON of guy friends – to the point where I think about my future wedding (if it ever happens) and how my bridal party would probably have to have some guys in it considering I’m closer to a lot more guys than I am girls. But I won’t lie, there have been many instances as of late which has led me to believe that maybe (just in some situations, of course) guys and girls CAN’T just be friends. And to reiterate, I still believe this idea that guys and girls CAN be just friends if they want to be. I always disregarded this notion, because I myself had plenty of (sometimes I think too many) guy friends who truly were just my friends. I remember guys I know (and some ladies too) always saying how guys and girls could never be just friends and no matter what one thinks, there’s always one person in the “friendship” who wants something more. And I still believe this – to a certain extent. Guy friends…friends with benefits…”just” friends….what does any of that really mean? For the longest time, I truly believed that men and women could be just friends…strictly, platonic friends. Anyways, I was also so caught up in the Olympics that I literally sat on my couch for 5 hours a night for 2 weeks and became absolutely worthless. But alas, I guess that’s the reason why I have this blog. I just kind of feel like nothing ever works out with me and any guy and it’s really bumming me out at the moment. I just haven’t really been in the mood to go on dates…I’m kind of in another “I Hate Guys” period (refer to my post “I ‘Hate’ Men?” to understand just how I’m feeling). Sidenote: Before I actually get to writing about the topic I’ve chosen, I’d like to apologize for neglecting everyone, including my blog itself.
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